Afaict Cam feels similarly in some ways as an amab agender man with a strong preference for women.
Specifically, he likes playing women he thinks are hot in video games (and then romancing other women he thinks are hot) and not playing as men or non-binary people, even though irl his presentation is conventionally masculine and he uses he/they pronouns.
This is all second hand but: His 'masculinity' is more about having been assigned male at birth and growing up to be tall and broad in a way that is much more accepted for men than women. He doesn't dislike the idea of presenting in a feminine way in and of itself, but then everyone would see him as a strongly female-gendered non-passing trans woman, which would be both incorrect and cause a lot of trouble. Cis man feels less inherently gendered, less inclined to get hate, and easier to make look flattering. But he still has some fellow feeling with trans lesbians that he doesn't get with genuinely cis straight men.
Meanwhile I'm bi and genderfluid and like playing non-binary characters who express interest in both men and women, or at least being able to have multiple presentations and orientations over different playthroughs (eg this PC is a lesbian while this one is a bi man, etc)
I'm having trouble figuring out the difference between what I'm attracted to and how I like to present, since in both fiction and irl genderfluidity is so rare that I'm honestly not sure if I'm attracted to genderfluid people or characters: I can't remember ever having met any appropriately aged genderfluid people in person, or any game giving the option to explicitly play as one. I do seem to be more into non-binary people but that's both a very large umbrella and a very small subset of both real people and characters.
But I'm thinking about playing my next BG3 character as genderfluid, now that I can change presentation and pronouns in the character creator whenever I want. So I'm curious to see how that feels.
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Specifically, he likes playing women he thinks are hot in video games (and then romancing other women he thinks are hot) and not playing as men or non-binary people, even though irl his presentation is conventionally masculine and he uses he/they pronouns.
This is all second hand but: His 'masculinity' is more about having been assigned male at birth and growing up to be tall and broad in a way that is much more accepted for men than women. He doesn't dislike the idea of presenting in a feminine way in and of itself, but then everyone would see him as a strongly female-gendered non-passing trans woman, which would be both incorrect and cause a lot of trouble. Cis man feels less inherently gendered, less inclined to get hate, and easier to make look flattering. But he still has some fellow feeling with trans lesbians that he doesn't get with genuinely cis straight men.
Meanwhile I'm bi and genderfluid and like playing non-binary characters who express interest in both men and women, or at least being able to have multiple presentations and orientations over different playthroughs (eg this PC is a lesbian while this one is a bi man, etc)
I'm having trouble figuring out the difference between what I'm attracted to and how I like to present, since in both fiction and irl genderfluidity is so rare that I'm honestly not sure if I'm attracted to genderfluid people or characters: I can't remember ever having met any appropriately aged genderfluid people in person, or any game giving the option to explicitly play as one. I do seem to be more into non-binary people but that's both a very large umbrella and a very small subset of both real people and characters.
But I'm thinking about playing my next BG3 character as genderfluid, now that I can change presentation and pronouns in the character creator whenever I want. So I'm curious to see how that feels.