Oh, thanks for this! It was really intriguing (and validating!) to read.
His 'masculinity' is more about having been assigned male at birth and growing up to be tall and broad in a way that is much more accepted for men than women. He doesn't dislike the idea of presenting in a feminine way in and of itself, but then everyone would see him as a strongly female-gendered non-passing trans woman, which would be both incorrect and cause a lot of trouble. Cis man feels less inherently gendered, less inclined to get hate, and easier to make look flattering. But he still has some fellow feeling with trans lesbians that he doesn't get with genuinely cis straight men.
Yeah, that's very similar to where I'm at in some ways (except that I look very conventionally feminine in a lot of ways, but the effect is very similar). It's interesting and cool that it's not just a me thing :)
But I'm thinking about playing my next BG3 character as genderfluid, now that I can change presentation and pronouns in the character creator whenever I want. So I'm curious to see how that feels.
Ooh, you could do that! That could be really interesting too!
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His 'masculinity' is more about having been assigned male at birth and growing up to be tall and broad in a way that is much more accepted for men than women. He doesn't dislike the idea of presenting in a feminine way in and of itself, but then everyone would see him as a strongly female-gendered non-passing trans woman, which would be both incorrect and cause a lot of trouble. Cis man feels less inherently gendered, less inclined to get hate, and easier to make look flattering. But he still has some fellow feeling with trans lesbians that he doesn't get with genuinely cis straight men.
Yeah, that's very similar to where I'm at in some ways (except that I look very conventionally feminine in a lot of ways, but the effect is very similar). It's interesting and cool that it's not just a me thing :)
But I'm thinking about playing my next BG3 character as genderfluid, now that I can change presentation and pronouns in the character creator whenever I want. So I'm curious to see how that feels.
Ooh, you could do that! That could be really interesting too!