I'm kind of a horrible commenter, but if I do have thoughts, I'll only be too happy to share them.
(I went on a meta binge a few days ago, and for the record, I'll say that your harem plotbunny was the only Vader/anyone that didn't make me want to pull my hair out. Just about everyone seems to assume that Anakin circa Vader would casually exploit women and/or have strings of indifferent-acquaintances-with-benefits, which just makes no sense for his character. Of course, some of them were outraged that he ended up in love and committed to the twins' mother in canon, so yeah. Anyway, it was cool to see a version of Anakin who wasn't exploitative or derailed but still had other relationships, even if it's not how I personally see him.)
I think Padmé would become a massive elephant in the room, yes. And I think it'd loom all the larger because -- okay, both Obi-Wan's last word to Anakin in ANH and Yoda's to Obi-Wan's in ROTS imply that Jedi are at least potentially immortal. While I think Luke and especially Leia have plenty to work through re: Anakin, they can deal with him personally. But there's no ghost!Padmé to scream at. They can never deal with Padmé herself, just memories and ideas and interpretations.
So I can definitely see her casting this shadow that's very difficult to live under, where they don't even know what her mistakes were at first, let alone how to avoid them, but once they hear the story they can sort of guess at their general shape. (I think it's interesting that, in a way, the twins have to avoid the same mistake in both parents -- getting consumed and broken by their public personas, or by the conflict between persona and person. Depersonalizing, as you say. And I think we do see in ESB and ROTJ that it's a real danger for them, something they're prone to doing. And veering to far away from one parent's mistake seems to lead right into the other's.)
Oh, I think Padmé would make a model Jedi, generally. That little bit of recklessness would have been trained out of her quite young and the rest would work fairly well. And I think it'd be terribly interesting.
There's one Jedi!Padmé story, but what I saw of it seemed pretty off-kilter -- I'd like to see Jedi!Padmé who devotes herself to the Order in much the same way canon!Padmé does to politics (and probably even using the same skillset), see different conflicts w/ whatever her relationship with Anakin was, one where it's really about her.
I think she would fit the culture better by temperament -- like Obi-Wan, who I think she very much resembles in basic disposition -- and that could be rather alarming. I'd like to see her as a bit harsher-edged, more dangerous, faintly creepy, without being Darth Amidala at all. (Er, tangent. But for some reason I always assumed Luke and Leia's mother was a Jedi -- which is probably obvious from Revenge -- and even later thought Jedi!Padmé could be awesome.)
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(I went on a meta binge a few days ago, and for the record, I'll say that your harem plotbunny was the only Vader/anyone that didn't make me want to pull my hair out. Just about everyone seems to assume that Anakin circa Vader would casually exploit women and/or have strings of indifferent-acquaintances-with-benefits, which just makes no sense for his character. Of course, some of them were outraged that he ended up in love and committed to the twins' mother in canon, so yeah. Anyway, it was cool to see a version of Anakin who wasn't exploitative or derailed but still had other relationships, even if it's not how I personally see him.)
I think Padmé would become a massive elephant in the room, yes. And I think it'd loom all the larger because -- okay, both Obi-Wan's last word to Anakin in ANH and Yoda's to Obi-Wan's in ROTS imply that Jedi are at least potentially immortal. While I think Luke and especially Leia have plenty to work through re: Anakin, they can deal with him personally. But there's no ghost!Padmé to scream at. They can never deal with Padmé herself, just memories and ideas and interpretations.
So I can definitely see her casting this shadow that's very difficult to live under, where they don't even know what her mistakes were at first, let alone how to avoid them, but once they hear the story they can sort of guess at their general shape. (I think it's interesting that, in a way, the twins have to avoid the same mistake in both parents -- getting consumed and broken by their public personas, or by the conflict between persona and person. Depersonalizing, as you say. And I think we do see in ESB and ROTJ that it's a real danger for them, something they're prone to doing. And veering to far away from one parent's mistake seems to lead right into the other's.)
Oh, I think Padmé would make a model Jedi, generally. That little bit of recklessness would have been trained out of her quite young and the rest would work fairly well. And I think it'd be terribly interesting.
There's one Jedi!Padmé story, but what I saw of it seemed pretty off-kilter -- I'd like to see Jedi!Padmé who devotes herself to the Order in much the same way canon!Padmé does to politics (and probably even using the same skillset), see different conflicts w/ whatever her relationship with Anakin was, one where it's really about her.
I think she would fit the culture better by temperament -- like Obi-Wan, who I think she very much resembles in basic disposition -- and that could be rather alarming. I'd like to see her as a bit harsher-edged, more dangerous, faintly creepy, without being Darth Amidala at all. (Er, tangent. But for some reason I always assumed Luke and Leia's mother was a Jedi -- which is probably obvious from Revenge -- and even later thought Jedi!Padmé could be awesome.)