this kind of made me want to cry. particularly as i read it just after i read another post on asexuality that made me sort of queasy.
as a romantic asexual who's married, i have the full range of straight privilege. but even as i know and understand that, that privilege makes me feel erased. i feel like i disappear inside it. because it's not who i am, yet i wear it because telling everyone i meet every day that that's not who i am is simply impossible.
this is also a reminder for me to be more mindful about aromantic asexuals, so thank you for that. i've really begun to despise the phrase "just friends". even though i'm all about the gushy falling in love narrative, as you know, i believe that the most profound relationships have to be based in friendship and that romance is simply a side shoot of that -- not a higher level, but a facet.
for what it's worth, if you ever want some one to talk to beyond this level of me blathering in your comments, you're welcome to email or whatever.
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on 2011-05-22 12:17 am (UTC)as a romantic asexual who's married, i have the full range of straight privilege. but even as i know and understand that, that privilege makes me feel erased. i feel like i disappear inside it. because it's not who i am, yet i wear it because telling everyone i meet every day that that's not who i am is simply impossible.
this is also a reminder for me to be more mindful about aromantic asexuals, so thank you for that. i've really begun to despise the phrase "just friends". even though i'm all about the gushy falling in love narrative, as you know, i believe that the most profound relationships have to be based in friendship and that romance is simply a side shoot of that -- not a higher level, but a facet.
for what it's worth, if you ever want some one to talk to beyond this level of me blathering in your comments, you're welcome to email or whatever.
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