anghraine: vader extending his lightsaber; text: and now for the airing of grievances! (Default)
[personal profile] anghraine
In my last post, I forgot to mention the entire reason I was thinking about things that make me happy: DADT was repealed, yay.

And by ‘yay,’ I meant ‘my country sucks slightly less today than it did yesterday.’

... Occasionally, talking about politics with other Americans feels like talking about fandom with other Austenfen. I’ll start to say ‘well, you know, they’ve tried it in Canada/Belgium/Argentina/etc--’ and inevitably get blank stares and/or WHAT IS THIS PLACE OF WHICH YOU SPEAK, AND WHY SHOULD I CARE ABOUT THEIR HEATHEN WAYS??

Only for civil rights instead of the merits of rec lists.

Also, on a largely unrelated note, I have no right whatsoever to object to arbitrarily ignoring/changing characters’ canon sexuality. Well, I do, but it’s massively hypocritical.

I recently posted many of my old Austen fics to AO3. Most of them had been written between 2004, when I discovered the fandom, and 2007, when I had a nice old-fashioned nervous breakdown. During those three years, I was at the height of my fannish activity. I also hadn’t yet identified as asexual. Of course, that was only because I didn’t know asexuality existed.

c. 2006:

I was one of the acest aces who’ve ever aced. But I was firmly convinced that I was just unromantic, broken, bitchy, repressed, or hormonally imbalanced, depending on the day.

Therefore, it made perfect sense to me that straight characters could be largely disinterested in romance and sex -- after all, if there were people way off on the ‘wildly passionate’ end of the heterosexual scale (and fandom had assured me this was so), it made sense for there to be people on the other end, my end, too.1

End result: these stories mostly star characters whose (oh so heterosexual) attractions register at about -20. Just like mine. But they weren’t gay, my reasoning went, so they had to be straight. (*cringe*)

Besides, most of them had that one person they were attracted to. They fell in love and got married and had fun sexy tiemz (which I had trouble even imagining them getting that much into – but of course they did, with some effort, behind the scenes) and all that jazz. Straightstraightstraight, like me. I just ... preferred to write about the other, more interesting parts of their lives. Yes.

c. 2010:

... Whoa.

Now, I’ve since come to terms with things. I’m very consciously asexual; even when I’m not actively thinking about it, my awareness of my asexuality never fully leaves my mind. (It’s sort of like being a girl, that way.) Everything I write – regardless of whether the characters are [meant to be] sexual or ace – is filtered through my perspective as an asexual.2

And I’m not sure I could deliberately write more blatant aces than the Faramir and Darcy of my old stories.

I never ran into much trouble with my cheerfully asexual Faramir, who was at most heteroromantic-for-Éowyn. But then, this is a character who canonically lumps pretty girls in with pretty flowers. Really. (Faramir, how much do I love thee? SO MUCH.)

Faramir was one thing. Darcy was – another.

And yes, I mean that Darcy. Darcy the memetic sex god, he of the brooding stares and wild passion and fandom-patented Loins o’ Lust. At first, I couldn’t articulate why fandom’s Darcy seemed so wrong to me. But I could write my version, and I took a perverse pleasure in defying all of the conventions that had grown up around Colin Firth him.

My Darcy’s sparse sexual experiences were uniformly awful; he ended up asking Elizabeth’s uncle for advice about the wedding night. Elizabeth initiated pretty much all sexual contact; Darcy was the ‘gatekeeper.’3

The stares -- well, they happened, but they were more confused than passionate. That’s why Charlotte (canonically!) mistook them for absent-mindedness. And he was so far from brooding on things that he wouldn’t think about them at all for months on end. (Poor Jane and Bingley.)

In fact, I wrote a fic all about his asexuality while still comfortably cocooned in my ‘I’m straight NO REALLY!’ bubble. It’s embarrassingly schmaltzy and I decided against posting it at AO3 for that reason, but it’s also rather amusing in retrospect.

These days, it’s not too hard to find stories about how very tragic it is for a sexual person to fall in love with an asexual. Somehow, even then, I’d lost patience with the constant narrative privileging of the sexual experience in that particular dynamic.4 So I wrote a version of that story where neither of the people involved were sexual. Instead, it’s the ~epic tragedy~ of a romantic asexual (Anne de Bourgh) falling in love with a largely aromantic asexual (Darcy)5.

I think I can safely say that Nor At Any Other6 is the only Anne/Darcy7 unrequited asexual romance in the history of forever.

In fact, even my long Darcy/OFC fic insists that neither he nor the OFC (another cousin) ever fall in love or are remotely attracted to each other. She’s heteroromantic, but not interested in him that way, he’s aromantic-except-for-Elizabeth, and they conceive their only child by thinking of England. That brief sex life is so traumatising that they mutually refuse to try for a boy.

(But he enjoys having sex with Elizabeth, once she persuades him into it, so he’s totally straight. Yes.)

While I got comments unrelated to Darcy’s blatant preference for cake8, they generally revolved around how ‘detached’ and ‘passionless’ he seemed, with the occasional ‘he must be seriously horny by now – hasn’t it been like seven years since he had sex? And that was really bad sex.

My very wordy responses boiled down to ‘I don’t know what you mean’ with a side helping of ‘this is my interpretation of the canon character. Maybe you’re thinking of creepy stalker fanon!Darcy?’

I’ve now re-skimmed my other stuff. Oddly, I think my characters became less predominantly asexual over time – well, perhaps not that oddly. At some point, I figured out that if I wanted my versions of canonically sexual characters9 to be canon-compliant, they had to be sexual. Mine weren’t – I really couldn’t generalise my (non)experience of sexuality to sexual people, however weak their libidos.

So I tried to write sexual characters as actually sexual. I’ve even got notes to myself – ‘make more sexual.’ I still reframe presumably sexual characters as asexual (current note to self: resolve hatred of Luke-Leia twin twist AND Anakin/Padmé scenes by writing demisexual Anakin and sexual Padmé as purely platonic BFFs!) and I still write many many more asexual characters than I’ve ever known a sexual writer to do. Yet in a weird twist on how I’ve always conceived of repression, the less I’ve repressed my asexuality, the less it unconsciously bleeds into everything I do. Now, when I write characters as asexual, I’m doing it on purpose.

(Mostly.)

Nevertheless, it’s . . . I’ve still got industrial strength Ace Goggles. I’ll genuinely see a character as asexual (usually demi), only to find that the writer(s)/actor/rest of fandom are convinced that the character is actively recruiting for wild space orgies. It’s still jarring, especially when I can’t really avoid the fact that canon supports them much more.

Half of me feels like I’m obviously engaging in resistant reading when I do this, no matter how natural an interpretation it seems to me. Discontinuity-happy as I can be, I don’t always want my interpretations to require reading against the text. Especially not when it’s a text I don’t have any other objection to. With P&P, I don’t want to thumb my nose at the text. I love the text! In a happy uncomplicated way, completely unlike the love-hate I’ve got towards SW and HP.

But the other half wants to sign Darcy up for an ace manifesto at [community profile] asexual_fandom yesterday (or at least Charlotte). The very idea – that reading a character as ace, without overwhelming evidence for it, is inherently resistant to any text – is pure heteronormative brainwashing.

I’m going to go beat my head against a brick wall now.


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1This is true. It was also epic rationalising, because none of these people were attracted in any direction at all. At most, they were attracted to one particular person.

2For the record: as far as sexual/romantic/aesthetic attraction goes, I’m ace/ace/bi with a preference for women. The only way I would ever again call myself straight is as some kind of bizarre joke.

3In one of the earliest stories, he recoils from their first kiss, rushing to explain to Elizabeth that their her chastity is deeply important to him. Because kissing leads to more kissing, which as we all know, leads straight to SEX. (As far as I recall, Elizabeth – too blatantly sexual for even my high-intensity Ace Goggles – reacted with mixed amusement, frustration, and occasional embarrassment.)

4Even though I didn’t know asexuality existed. I don’t know, I have universe-altering powers or something.

5In retrospect, that's still problematic from an aromantic perspective. Ack.

6cf Ch 31: Elizabeth looked at Darcy to see how cordially he assented to his cousin's praise; but neither at that moment nor at any other could she discern any symptom of love.

7In the epilogue, he turned out to be demiromantic demisexual, because canon. But he was a full-blown aromantic asexual during the story itself.

8WTF YOU KILLED [SPOILER], [SPOILER], [SPOILER], AND [SPOILER]?!

9The issue of ‘canonical sexuality’ is a whole ’nother can of worms that I’d really like to get into, since it’s really where I see Austen fandom's heteronormativity most glaringly expressed – whether in het, gen or slash.

on 2010-12-21 10:14 pm (UTC)
hl: Drawing of Ada Lovelace as a young child, reading a Calculus book (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] hl
This is interesting! It reminds me of our earliest discussions about random changes.

It's curious how after a while one can sometimes see why one wrote something in a particular way -- I mean, you already know about me and my latest realization. It's... idk. Interesting and embarrassing at once. Interesting when one can see it as it from outside and ignore the id (unconscious? unconscious biases?) peeking in is (are) one's own.

re:footnote 9. Regarding slash, do you mean the willingness to read Caroline or Bingley (for different reasons) as gay but not do the same with Darcy & Elizabeth?

on 2010-12-21 10:16 pm (UTC)
hl: Drawing of Ada Lovelace as a young child, reading a Calculus book (Default)
Posted by [personal profile] hl
Also, I'm coming online if you want to chat! Studying and family fights and chores have kept me away by turns, frustratingly (& Fallout, except that is not frustrating, because you know how I like apocalyptic fiction, so starring one would hardly be annoying :P).

on 2011-01-02 10:01 pm (UTC)
tree: a button that reads: this is what an asexual looks like ([else] asexy)
Posted by [personal profile] tree
i have had this open forever (read: since you posted it), meaning to reply. i often feel like a hugely odd duck, being a romantic asexual to begin with (it seems like almost all the other asexuals i've come into contact with are aromantic), and also being, like, obsessed with the romantic attachments and couplings of my favourite characters. i've decided that sex in and of itself is my kink. that's my story and i'm sticking to it.

what is it with the "i'm not gay, so i must be straight" thing every asexual i've ever seen has gone through? is it like a mandatory stop on the way to discovering asexuality? sheesh.

i don't like to think that darcy is asexual, mostly because i enjoy reading and writing about the sexy tiems! but then i do like the way you write(/have written) him. so, i'm torn!

(also, wow, now that you mention it, i have been fangirling you since, like, 2005. *feels creepy*)

My Darcy’s sparse sexual experiences were uniformly awful; he ended up asking Elizabeth’s uncle for advice about the wedding night. Elizabeth initiated pretty much all sexual contact; Darcy was the ‘gatekeeper.’

you say awful, i say charming. a little awkward. endearing. and occasionally hilarious. :D maybe it's because your darcy is, as you say, such a (welcome) change from fanon's alpha male, priapistic darcy, but i also think it's because you make it believable. whereas uniformly randy darcy just... isn't.

But the other half wants to sign Darcy up for an ace manifesto at [community profile] asexual_fandom yesterday (or at least Charlotte).

dooo eeeet. although charlotte's would really be the shortest manifesto ever: "i'm not romantic." THE END.


sidenote -- lady harriet from wives and daughters: aromantic asexual Y/Y?

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