Tumblr crosspost (19 September 2019)
Oct. 27th, 2019 10:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
anghraineAn anon on Tumblr asked:
this may be a super invasive ask but i'm having some ace issues of my own. feel free to ignore. as an ace lesbian, do you feel attracted to women you post a lot like holliday grainger? or do you just think she's aesthetically beautiful, like a mountain? is it somewhere in between?
I replied:
Oh, it’s okay.
I’d say somewhere in-between. It’s definitely distinct from what I feel about attractive men (which is very much of the mountain type). But it’s not quite the same as being attracted in real life, either—less visceral and more aesthetic, in most cases.
However, I’m grey-ace for one, so I do feel actual attraction once in a blue moon, and I’m autistic for another, so positioning myself wrt other people is difficult. My experience is probably different from what most ace lesbians feel—though I expect it’s always messy.
(Of course sexuality is complicated for everyone blahblahblah but for me, the ace/lesbian line is very fuzzy, since my preference for women colours pretty much everything.)
this may be a super invasive ask but i'm having some ace issues of my own. feel free to ignore. as an ace lesbian, do you feel attracted to women you post a lot like holliday grainger? or do you just think she's aesthetically beautiful, like a mountain? is it somewhere in between?
I replied:
Oh, it’s okay.
I’d say somewhere in-between. It’s definitely distinct from what I feel about attractive men (which is very much of the mountain type). But it’s not quite the same as being attracted in real life, either—less visceral and more aesthetic, in most cases.
However, I’m grey-ace for one, so I do feel actual attraction once in a blue moon, and I’m autistic for another, so positioning myself wrt other people is difficult. My experience is probably different from what most ace lesbians feel—though I expect it’s always messy.
(Of course sexuality is complicated for everyone blahblahblah but for me, the ace/lesbian line is very fuzzy, since my preference for women colours pretty much everything.)