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In response to this post, elperian said:

there is that line where jane says ‘nothing could give either bingley or myself more delight. but we considered it, we talked of [lizzy and darcy] as impossible.’ so they do have a textual convo offscreen - but it’s about l/d which is funny in its own way

I replied:

Yeah, that’s what I meant when I said that it’s not that they don’t speak to each other in-story—they must have spoken on numerous occasions, of course, including those ones. It’s that Austen doesn’t bother showing any of those conversations in dialogue (unless I’m misremembering), which I think is fairly suggestive about the novel’s priorities.

rorylgilmore responded [on 5 Jan 2023]:

#same. i don't get it #i like the character of jane #but i'm confused whenever p&p is made to be about the two sisters and their romances as if it was s&s #(yet another reason i'm not on board with grouping all austen novels together) #we don't know enough about jane/bingley to be as invested (from my perspective at least) #still to each their own

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Autism rant:

People tell me “I’m awkward, maybe I’m on the spectrum too!” so often and … okay.

I know there are autistic people who have milder cases than I do, so it’s not fair to be like, well, that lacks features of my experience of it and therefore can’t be the real deal. Nor is the exact mixture of sensory, processing, verbal, social, etc issues going to escalate along a smoothly graded path—people can have more severe difficulties in some areas and less in others, compared to other autistic people. So even people whose autism is roughly comparable to mine might deal more with things I don’t struggle with as much and less with things I do struggle with and look quite different on the outside.

In any case, I’m not equipped to diagnose or anti-diagnose(??) people in general.

But still. I’m so wtf at this whole “autism == social awkwardness” thing.

Tagged: #istg some people act like being kind of awkward and having hobbies is all it's about

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jubaah responded to this post:

SAAAAAAME

beatrice_otter said:

Yes, this!

[ETA 5/9/2024: I'm not sure if I responded at the time—I didn't want to harp too much on this because I didn't want my post to be appropriated for anti-neurodivergence rhetoric or even anti-self diagnosis in an overly sweeping way. I was just frustrated with what seemed like blatantly allistic people cosplaying autism and my apparent inability to get across the actual severity of autistic symptoms in a way that could be understood as distinct from typical human variances.]

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The Avatar account just posted the final confrontation between Zuko and Ozai, and it’s still so good. One of my absolute favorite moments in the whole show.

Tagged: #i am a very quiet zuko stan lol #...quiet about him anyway

[ETA 5/9/2024: lol, I went to select an icon and realized I don't even have one for him, and in fact all my Avatar icons seem to be for LOK. Backs up my point about being a quiet Zuko stan, I guess!]

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YouTube keeps reccing “what your favorite [X Fandom] ship says about you” videos, and it’s like … without additional information, your ship says nothing about you! Yes, even if it’s [Ship Someone Really Hates]. Other people don’t know your life and motivations, and it’s patently obvious that people ship the same things for different reasons. It’s how you ship it + other behavior that reveals something of yourself—and even that is easy for strangers to lump into an undifferentiated mass.

I’m completely immovable on this point, so why I keep getting these videos is a mystery.

#i mean #at least the recs evolved from 'racist and misogynistic takes on tolkien' and 'dudebros whining about star wars' #to just inane shit #(okay and she-ra fanvids) #(but that is not a mystery lol)

[ETA 5/9/2024: this has completely disappeared from the algorithm over the last couple of years, which I find mildly interesting as a phenomenon! People asked if I was thinking of one specific YouTuber and I wasn't, I just kept getting recced this kind of thing.]